How to Get Over a Bad Relationship – Cord Cutting

One, Two, Three I banish thee…Bad vibes be gone!

By Rebecca Bell

We have all been there, its not me its you. Breakups are hard and shake our emotional core, sometimes they can be harder than others and we lose sight of what it was to feel like ourselves without that other person. Who are we as a single entity and can we ever feel love and happiness again?

YES you absolutely can! Whether it is a breakup you just cannot shake, a relationship that has gone sour, or just bad energy that has been hanging around you for too long. With this candle spell based on cord cutting, we are going to banish the bad vibes and rekindle your internal flame.

What you will need:

This Spell requires a fireproof surface most importantly! Its one thing to burn away bad vibes with a candle, but burning your house down? That is a little excessive! The wise witch recommends not leaving this spell unattended and using a ceramic plate/ fireproof surface to protect your beautiful alter.

We’re using a Candle dish for our spell.

You will need two candles, for this we are using some coloured spell candles which are widely available (support your local occult supplier if you can). Then you need to pick two candles from the following, don’t be shy to mix and match to suit what you feel you need.

Red – Associated with Love, passion and seduction.

Pink – Associated with self-love, love healing, gentleness in love.

White – These candles are the blank candle and can be used as a place marker for any colour candle.

Black – Associated with protection and warding off bad vibes. 

How to conduct the spell

Once you have selected your candles its time to prepare, lay out your candles and take a moment of pause to think on the old connection that is causing you negativity or difficulty, find it and imagine it as strands of string. Focus on taking hold of those strands of negative emotions and imagine tying them all together. Now take your candles and tie the wicks together, letting the rope of negativity in your mind become the wicks, and place the candles upright on your surface.

Tip: light a tea light or spare candle and drip the wax on the plate when its still wet stick your spell candles into it, as it hardens it will support the candles more.

Once your candles are placed and that negativity is outside of your body, you can take a moment to say goodbye to the connection that’s been holding you back.  You might want to come up with a fun rhyming incantation.

Flame, fire, candle, smoke, take away the pain and make me woke.

When you feel your energy has built up, and your ready to cut the connection giving you bad vibes. Take your fire (spiritually too) and light the loose ends of the wicks and watch as the fire consumes those negative feelings.

As the flame works its magic to burn the cord, its time to focus on the lightness in you, and how you are going to move forward with those reclaimed energies un-divided by those that drained you before. Give yourself a day, and try our Heart Opener Tarot Spread. A spread designed to advise on how to bring more love into your heart and take you on the path to a higher love.

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  1. Arabella
    March 23, 2021 / 9:33 am

    Hey I did something similar to this (candles joined through string) and I was wondering if the manner in which the candles burn (I.e one burns fast and erratic but the other burns slowly and methodically and takes ages) means anything? Or if there’s any resources to read into this further? Thank you!

    • Liminal11
      March 23, 2021 / 9:55 am

      Hello Arabella, that is a good question! We are sure there are resources in the world to look at. However, I think this is a good example of listening to your intuition, did each candle represent something? Does the speed of the burning mean something to you? Investigate using your intuition, trust your judgements.
      Similar to reading tarot, speed and haste are associated with the Knight of Swords, and taking time and pause to spend time alone is associated with the Hermit.

      Hope that helps on your journey !

  2. March 25, 2021 / 2:54 am

    Hey, I hope you will respond to my comment because I want help from you for example I want a spell or anything that strengthens my relationship with someone I love and always without problems And it becomes strong our feelings and love for each other

    • Liminal11
      March 25, 2021 / 12:45 pm

      Hello, unfortunately we don’t offer spells. But you may find guidance in reading tarot.

  3. Lucy
    March 31, 2021 / 9:47 pm

    is this only for romantic relationships or friendships as well?

    • Liminal11
      April 5, 2021 / 8:52 am

      Hello Lucy, Thank you for your question. This can be used for any form of relationship as it is about your intention, its best to focus on releasing negative emotions from your body and feeling freed. We hope this was helpful!

      • Sarah
        April 18, 2021 / 4:18 am

        Does it matter which colors you use?

        • Liminal11
          April 19, 2021 / 11:59 am

          Take a look at the meaning behind the coloured candles and pick the one that best suits your needs.

        • Sophia
          June 6, 2021 / 1:42 am

          I have an ex ex that I can not shake in my dreams and I have absolutely no feelings there about from negative ones – wondering if I can do this to get rid of her ?

          Also I have a more recent ex that I want her to come back to me, did a cord cutting last week don’t feel like it worked at all – if I do this one will it cut everything off from my most recent ex ? Or can she come back to me ?

          If she can come back to me and I do the same with the EX EX (hope you’re still with me lol) will the the EX EX come back to me because I REALLY do not want that

          • Liminal11
            June 7, 2021 / 8:30 am

            Hello, you can try this! It’s all about the intent, you have to really feel and focus on letting that person go from your mind. But if its really really causing trouble still remember that this does not replace professional therapy. Good luck!

  4. Lola
    April 13, 2021 / 5:09 am

    Can you undue this?

    • Liminal11
      April 13, 2021 / 9:00 am

      If the intention is there then it can be undone, you could even consult tarot to ask for guidance, for moving forward into the relationship.

      • Lola
        April 28, 2021 / 2:24 am

        What are the steps I need to do to undue this? Thanks!

  5. Niels
    April 20, 2021 / 8:30 pm

    Hi, am I supposed to let the candles burn up completely or just till the tied wicks are seperated?

    • Liminal11
      April 21, 2021 / 8:25 am

      Hello, until the wicks separate, but there is no harm in burning them fully.

  6. Elane
    May 2, 2021 / 3:58 am

    Thank you. Just got out of a divorce and this spell is just what I needed!

  7. May 25, 2021 / 2:32 am

    Hi. Just found your site and wanting to do this cord cutting spell. I’m in the process of packing to move at the moment though and do t have an altar. Can I do this without an altar? Maybe is I make the circle first? Thank you.

    • Liminal11
      May 25, 2021 / 8:16 am

      Hello, an alter is not essential, spell work is best preformed somewhere you feel comfortable, where you intuition leads you. If you feel a circle is right then go for it! Just make sure the candles are placed safely that they wont start any unexpected fire. All the best with the move 🙂

  8. Sara
    May 25, 2021 / 3:37 pm

    I have a question, if I do the one with the candles joined by a string does it have to be just with past relationships? Would it work if I was to do it because of a family member? Thanks.

    • Liminal11
      May 25, 2021 / 4:59 pm

      It’s best to focus on distancing from the negative feelings that are created from something, it is about letting the negative feelings leave your body so that you are lighter in spirit!

  9. Vis
    May 29, 2021 / 12:21 am

    Hello, I have a question.. what does it mean if both candles burned down, but string was just.. chilling on the way and haven’t catched on fire at all? It was just going down along with the flames, even tho they’ve both been really strong.
    In addition, at the very end the opposite candle to mine was acting really strange. Wick with a huge flame kept.. spinning slowly around as if it was avoiding string. It was weird . :I

    • Liminal11
      June 1, 2021 / 8:37 am

      That is an interesting result, we tied the wicks together in our spell as having a different string can sometimes not burn up as well. it might be worth trying by trimming the candle to expose the wick and then tying them together 🙂

  10. Kai
    June 10, 2021 / 7:45 pm

    Hi! So i just did this and both flames were normal size then all of a sudden the flame on the left got really small, went out and then relit but stayed really small, i have a feeling this may represent the person I’m trying to cut ties with, do you have any ideas what this may mean I’m trying to base it off my intuition but I’m also a little confused:)

    • Liminal11
      June 14, 2021 / 8:12 am

      Hello, your quite right to listen to your intuition, it might be worth righting yourself a few questions to explore. Such as What does this mean to me? Am I able to let go? How can I fully let go? If you have tarot cards you could also consult them for advice, but remember your intuition 9/10 is correct if you listen to it without fighting it, even if its not always the thing you want to hear.

  11. Nichole
    June 16, 2021 / 5:19 pm

    Can this be done regarding a spirit or presence… but that you don’t know the exact name? I feel like someone or something is tied to me, but I haven’t been able to get a clear answer from tarot or other methods. I feel like I’m dealing with something very trickster/manipulative. Any insight is appreciated!

    • Liminal11
      June 21, 2021 / 8:23 am

      Hello Nichole,

      You can use this if you feel the presence is clinging to you, though it has not presented it’s name to you by focusing strongly on the form of this presence and its energies you should be able to detach it. Good luck!

  12. Eve
    July 29, 2021 / 5:44 am

    I did this with me and my ex and the next day he texted me we haven’t talked for months I’m confused on why the spell did the exact opposite of what I wanted

    • Liminal11
      July 29, 2021 / 11:54 am

      Hello, the spell is intended to remove your connection you should feel more easy to ignore and move on from that text as a result, the magic is intended to banish your attachment to the negativity.

  13. Marlene Sandoval
    October 15, 2021 / 1:08 am

    Hi.. so my flame was small.. but his went crazy! It took his to die down for a while.. it kept getting higher and higher for him.. but it finally died while mine died off about an hour later but it was a small flame.. while his was very high and intense…

  14. Elaine
    October 25, 2022 / 5:01 pm

    Hi! If I want to cut ties with a lot of toxic things (ex, previous work, parents, relative, friends), do I have to provide candles for each? And do I have to burn them all at once?

  15. Lillitu
    December 30, 2022 / 11:37 pm

    What if it wasn’t a bad relationship. But it’s over and you’re just having a hard time letting go of it… same spell?

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